Custom Bespoke Suits For The Grand Ball

GraduationGraduating high school students always look forward to their Grand Ball. Ladies would excitedly wait for who would ask them first to the ball. The gentlemen, on the other hand, spend a great deal of time deciding on whom to ask to be their date for the event. As for the parents, they wait with their fingers crossed praying the budget would to be enough!

I remember when my youngest daughter asked my permission to be a friend’s date for their Grand Ball. Seeing how much it meant for her, I agreed. I smile each time I remember how she and her friends searched for the appropriate clothes to wear. In my heart, I know, she’s creating a memory that will last for a lifetime.

I finally got to meet the young man who asked my daughter to his ball. From afar, I was impressed by how he carried himself in his made to measure shirt. I found much comfort in knowing he belongs to a respectable family and happens to be the cousin of my daughter’s bosom friend.

My impression of the young man grew when I accepted their invitation for a cosy dinner. His mother turned out to be a pretty and kind woman. His father looked awesome in a casual made to measure shirt. The young man must have inherited, not just those good genes, but also his father’s love for impeccable made to measure shirts.

Over steak and salad, his mother and I discussed the clothes our children will wear for the big night. She proudly told me how she had purchased a custom bespoke suit for her son. She was gushing with pride as she shared with me the colour and style of the custom bespoke suit.

Knowing how much the affair meant to my daughter, I chose a cocktail dress of deep electric blue to match her escort’s suit. As the young man was quite tall of good body built, I wanted my daughter to look feminine and fragile. After picking the appropriate high heeled shoes, I made reservations to an elite saloon for my daughter’s hair and make-up.

I will never forget the faces of the young man and his family when they fetched my daughter for the Grand Ball. I saw the admiration in their eyes which neared unbelief that a simple young girl is truly a lady. With last minute instructions, I watched them drive away to the Grand Ball’s venue.

It was no surprise to me when I learned around midnight that my daughter and her escort won the “Couple of the Night” award. They truly deserve that award as they have worked hard to prepare for that occasion. Lastly, they deserve it, having parents who would support them all the way!


Why Wear Black?

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In this generation where lots of style of clothes are coming out, specifically lots of prints and colors , there are still a number of people who prefer to use black as the color of their clothes. Of course the first thing that comes out of our mind is they have boring clothes or they just don’t have any taste in colors, or maybe they are just the emotional type of people because we somehow don’t understand where they are coming from but if we come to think of it, I believe that there will always be a reason for everything so  maybe there’s a reason behind why they chose black for the color of  their clothes.

On color psychology, black reflects authority and power but it could also represent evil notion for some people. By wearing black , you’d be able to attract people who likes authoritative men and eventually , they will start to admire you. Wearing black makes you look independent and strong. But what is really the reason behind preferring to wear black? Most of the time , people who wear black are people who are secretive. As much as possible , they never want to express or share what they really feel inside.  Maybe because they got hurt in their past and because of that pain , they never wanted anyone to go near them or get too close to them with the reason that they don’t want to feel the pain they once felt again. Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. From the word deeply, it tells us that when you have a trauma with something, things won’t be that easy. Your perspective may change, the way you judge things may change and your capability to trust people will also change. To the people who are still haunted by their past, you should know that you have your worth and not all people are the same. Not all of them will hurt you. You just have to trust again.

The colors we choose really has indications. If not always , at least most of the time. Maybe we can get to know someone better with his color perspective. Black then has a deep meaning which can only be understood by those who are willing to understand. By those who are willing to extend their arms to make the insecure people secured. But maybe it’s still up to the person if he will allow people to help him and if he will open his doors to them. It’s about having the courage to trust new people and accepting that what happened to your past is already done.

How do you deal with vests?

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We always find male music artists wearing the vest of a three piece suit as a standalone and separate clothing item like Justin Timberlake, Usher and Adam Levine, to name a few. Sometimes they wear it with a plain white tee and blue jeans or rolled up long sleeves dress shirt and slim fit slacks. Some pair it with a painter’s hat or a fedora and some rock artists even wear the vest over a naked chest. Wearing a vest detached to the other two pieces of the suit is quite risky. Partly you have to have that swag that these musicians possess and follow the following fashion use of vests.

  • Vest + Matching Trousers + Dress Shirt. In a three piece suit, discard the jacket and wear that matching vest and trousers and put in a white dress shirt. Make sure the trousers are not lousy and in a sharp slim fit. Button the vest all the way up and roll or fold the shirt’s sleeves up to your elbow. You can go tie-less or kick this outfit with a loosely tied slim tie or a bowtie.
  • Vest + Dress Shirt + Jeans. Key to dressing down is pairing the vest with jeans. You may use black or blue slim fit jeans for this look. Button the vest all the way to the top. You may opt to be trendy and wear a dress shirt in pin stripe pattern and undo the top buttons for that rugged feel. Wear a thick belt to be consistent with the casual look.
  • Vest + Khakis + Denims. Two definitely modern cowboy in the city look are as follows: 1) white undershirt, blue or denim shirt (undone top buttons, and rolled up sleeves to the elbows), black formal unbuttoned vest, khaki slim fit pants and black leather high cut shoes and 2) black v-neck slim fit tees, brown/khaki formal vest, blue denim pair of jeans and brown leather shoes. You can either match your shoes to the color of your belt or vest.

NOTE : In dealing with vests, it is best to wear it together with an informal statement belt with a buckle that probably says LV or with a designer print/pattern. As the suit jacket is disregarded and the belt area of the pants shows off, a belt would be a nice accessory to that exposed area.

You don’t have to be Justin Timberlake for an outfit with a vest drama but you should be cautious as these three variations of illegal use of suit vests mentioned are challenging to pull off. It can either make or break an existing outfit. It normally suits a guy with lean body like the musicians mentioned earlier. The vest has its slimming effect however, do not abuse this feature, the vest cannot serve as a corset to your belly crisis.

Men’s Style: Jeans Talk

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A man’s closet is never complete without a pair of jeans. It is the king in a man’s wardrobe in terms of usefulness, versatility and frequency of use. Other than your work clothes, the jeans are the most worn item from a casual date, a walk in the park, doing the grocery, or even when you are just at home. It may not be the most expensive clothing item you possess however; you should know what to look for in buying the correct one as you’ll wear them for years.


Fit and Style

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Know your real measurements. A 32×32 measurement means 32 inches waist and 32 inches inseam. If you wear 32 sized jeans, it doesn’t mean that your waist measures 32 inches. A universal marketing strategy of clothing brands is vanity sizing. Your waist is probably 1 ½ to 2 ½ inches larger than your vanity size and this factor differs from brand to brand sometimes from one style to the other. So it is still necessary to go to a store and try them on. For the inseam, 32 inches is standard and most common. It is safer to buy longer jeans for allowance for possible shrinking. You can just fold it or have it altered. For the buttocks and thigh area, you may choose between a regular or relaxed fit. Widely chosen fit is the regular but for muscular men; a relaxed fit better suit you considering it is more comfortable. In terms of rise, or the distance between the top button area to the crotch, the options are either high, mid or low rise. Low rise are often worn by younger men below 30s or for men without a muffin-top to show. A harmless preference would be a mid rise as it is placed just where your belly button is cutting the area where unflattering bulges might show. For leg build, there are lots of options per brand ranging from straight cut, bootleg, skinny, and etcetera. If you are confused as to what to buy, a regular straight leg is always a hit or a slight boot cut if you want a little flare at the bottom when wearing boots.

Color and Wash

Stick to a timeless, tried and tested denim wash and style. As brands may introduce different trendy and funky designs, prints, color and wash, you may opt to stay with ones that have survived the test of time if you want to get the most out of your money. Choices are the classic blue jeans you can wear all day, slightly faded jeans for more laid back look and the dark denim for smart-casual attire best paired with any kind of jacket.


After all of these tips, sure enough you will be more efficient in choosing the right pair of jeans for you.

Men’s Fashion: Wedding DO’s and DON’Ts

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Groom and getting married soon? Yes, I know your bride has been ranting about you not caring about the details of your wedding – from the reception color scheme, the flavor of the macaroons for dessert which you don’t even eat, to the seating arrangement of the entourage. And as much as you would want to get involved, you’re just being a man, just nodding and saying “Yes, honey” or “That’s fine” with a sarcastic tired grin for every question she throws at you. But please, don’t let her even stress out over how you look on your wedding day! Your lovable wife-to-be deserves a handsome groom waiting for her at the altar as she walks down the aisle on her big day. Here are some of our nuptial DO’s and DON’Ts for grooms to help you out:


  1. Spend on a tailored suit. Ideally you only get married once. Make an effort, look like a groom and NOT a cheap version of your boss. There are reasonably priced tailored suits available in the market that would look absolutely amazing and expensive on you – fitted to perfection!
  2. Choose a photogenic wardrobe. – At the end of the roller-coaster ride wedding shiznits, all you are left with are wedding bills to pay and wedding pictures. So you better choose the suit style and color that looks best on you.
  3. Splurge wisely. – From the suit to the shoes, try buying something that you can see yourself wearing/using again. Otherwise, you can sell it online easily.
  4. Try asking one of your bride’s sophisticated gaylister friends for clothing advice. – You will be surprised with their genius advice. As a man, they know what they want to see in the mirror, plus as a gay guy, they also know what turns them on.


  1. Don’t ever wear a rented suit. Self-explanatory. Do this, if not for yourself, for your bride. This is your wedding day man! Imagine how many wedding photo ops did that same suit got exposed to.
  2. Don’t forget to accessorize. There are things which are as important as your vow cheat sheet – tie/bowtie, black socks, boutonniere, watch, belt, shoes, cuff-links, shades and handkerchief. Have all of these basic items ready and you are all set.
  3. Don’t be too complacent. Tying the knot is a whole day event so expect a wardrobe malfunction or a food spill or a sweaty you on your wedding day. A little sewing kit and a box of clean tissue might save little glitches but to be sure, have your best man prepare another set of every piece of your clothing just in case something dreadful happens.

Men’s Fashion: Tie and I

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How many times have your colleagues, specifically women, complemented you that your tie looks great? It is just there at the center that the eyes are forced to look at it. And even if it’s not the first thing that people notice, it is the easiest thing to verbalize and a safe hit-on pick-up line. Thinking about it, ties don’t really have a fundamental function. It just hangs on men’s necks. But whether we like it or not, with the perfect fit, it really makes a big difference.

Size matters. Tie with proper size and proportion to your body is important. Wide and narrow ties have been on and off the fashion mainstream, and it is better to continuously update your fashion look book. Tie width range is from 2 ½ to 2 ¾ inches for slim tie and 3 ¼ to 3 ¾ inches for regular ties. If you want a young modern look, slim tie is the best option; exact width depends on your built. To achieve elegance and to emphasize the V-shape masculine body, some still opt for wider ties. For the length, it is important to note that your belt line is your guide. Make sure the tie tip reaches that assigned base line after the knot.

Guide to color and style, mixing and matching. Wool, pin-dot, club, stripe or repp? Do all of these tie designs confuse you? If you want to be worry-free, a tie in solid dark color (preferably black) is a sure hit. It matches to essentially any basic shirt. A vital tie tip: cotton material on cotton suits and wool material on wool suits. It’s a no brainer matching solid ties and solid shirt but when pattern comes in, a mishap is highly probable. Easy tips: 1) choose a tie and find a shirt with the same color as one of the hues present on the print of the tie, 2) careful with mixing printed shirts and ties with patterns, make sure that only one print dominates, the weight of one is lighter than the other.

Work that bow tie. Themed events has been a craze in the last decade, sure thing you have been invited to a “Bow Tie Party” so it is key to have one handy in your tool box. Whether a tie-it-yourself or a pre-tied one; a good choice for your first bow tie is a black sleek one. Pair it with a shirt under a suit and a pair of oxfords, the Justin Timberlake in you is gonna pop out.

A tie is some kind of a jewel in a man’s outfit. With this piece, it’s just plain form over function.