Confidence – The Key To Success

ConfidenceIn this world, you will have to fight for yourself. You have to have the courage to make everyone see what you are capable of doing. You have to stand up for your own beliefs and thoughts and confidence is needed to accomplish this. Confidence compliments abilities, qualities or ideas. When you are raising a point, of course you should be very sure of what you’re trying to say so that the people listening to you will believe and be convinced.

What are the things that boost confidence? Firstly, you have to look good. Not everyone is given the gift of handsomeness and prettiness – you can still look good by being very clean with your body like having proper hygiene which includes brushing your teeth, taking a nice bath and cutting your nails. You can also look better by wearing appropriate apparel of clothes corresponding to where you’re going. Second, you should have a good idea of the background of where or what you are going to encounter for the day, being knowledgeable gives you the power to talk and share your personal thoughts about the topic because then again, you fully understand what it really is. Since information is already very reachable nowadays, doing research won’t cause any trouble and hassle. Third, you should know how to relax yourself no matter who you are talking to. Being relaxed gives you the power to compose your thoughts properly. Fourth, you have to talk fluently giving the person you’re talking to an impression that he or she can trust the information you are giving him. Try to imagine yourself listening to what you are trying to say. Is it convincing enough that even you would believe? Try to assess yourself. Fifth, believe in yourself. Believe in what you can do so that people around you may also believe you. You will be more convincing if they can feel that you really believe in what you are saying. Who would believe someone who is not confident on the things he speaks of.

Five basic things that you can try to be able to start building  your confidence. Maybe it’s now time to go out of the shell and show the world what you can do. We are all capable to be the better, to be the best. We just have to make the first step, we should grab opportunities even if we never imagined our self doing that certain thing. We might not know that what we once thought to be impossible will be the key to our success. We just have to have the courage to try new things and let ourselves grow.


Why Wear Black?

Men Wearing Black

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In this generation where lots of style of clothes are coming out, specifically lots of prints and colors , there are still a number of people who prefer to use black as the color of their clothes. Of course the first thing that comes out of our mind is they have boring clothes or they just don’t have any taste in colors, or maybe they are just the emotional type of people because we somehow don’t understand where they are coming from but if we come to think of it, I believe that there will always be a reason for everything so  maybe there’s a reason behind why they chose black for the color of  their clothes.

On color psychology, black reflects authority and power but it could also represent evil notion for some people. By wearing black , you’d be able to attract people who likes authoritative men and eventually , they will start to admire you. Wearing black makes you look independent and strong. But what is really the reason behind preferring to wear black? Most of the time , people who wear black are people who are secretive. As much as possible , they never want to express or share what they really feel inside.  Maybe because they got hurt in their past and because of that pain , they never wanted anyone to go near them or get too close to them with the reason that they don’t want to feel the pain they once felt again. Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience. From the word deeply, it tells us that when you have a trauma with something, things won’t be that easy. Your perspective may change, the way you judge things may change and your capability to trust people will also change. To the people who are still haunted by their past, you should know that you have your worth and not all people are the same. Not all of them will hurt you. You just have to trust again.

The colors we choose really has indications. If not always , at least most of the time. Maybe we can get to know someone better with his color perspective. Black then has a deep meaning which can only be understood by those who are willing to understand. By those who are willing to extend their arms to make the insecure people secured. But maybe it’s still up to the person if he will allow people to help him and if he will open his doors to them. It’s about having the courage to trust new people and accepting that what happened to your past is already done.

How do you deal with vests?

3-Piece suit

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We always find male music artists wearing the vest of a three piece suit as a standalone and separate clothing item like Justin Timberlake, Usher and Adam Levine, to name a few. Sometimes they wear it with a plain white tee and blue jeans or rolled up long sleeves dress shirt and slim fit slacks. Some pair it with a painter’s hat or a fedora and some rock artists even wear the vest over a naked chest. Wearing a vest detached to the other two pieces of the suit is quite risky. Partly you have to have that swag that these musicians possess and follow the following fashion use of vests.

  • Vest + Matching Trousers + Dress Shirt. In a three piece suit, discard the jacket and wear that matching vest and trousers and put in a white dress shirt. Make sure the trousers are not lousy and in a sharp slim fit. Button the vest all the way up and roll or fold the shirt’s sleeves up to your elbow. You can go tie-less or kick this outfit with a loosely tied slim tie or a bowtie.
  • Vest + Dress Shirt + Jeans. Key to dressing down is pairing the vest with jeans. You may use black or blue slim fit jeans for this look. Button the vest all the way to the top. You may opt to be trendy and wear a dress shirt in pin stripe pattern and undo the top buttons for that rugged feel. Wear a thick belt to be consistent with the casual look.
  • Vest + Khakis + Denims. Two definitely modern cowboy in the city look are as follows: 1) white undershirt, blue or denim shirt (undone top buttons, and rolled up sleeves to the elbows), black formal unbuttoned vest, khaki slim fit pants and black leather high cut shoes and 2) black v-neck slim fit tees, brown/khaki formal vest, blue denim pair of jeans and brown leather shoes. You can either match your shoes to the color of your belt or vest.

NOTE : In dealing with vests, it is best to wear it together with an informal statement belt with a buckle that probably says LV or with a designer print/pattern. As the suit jacket is disregarded and the belt area of the pants shows off, a belt would be a nice accessory to that exposed area.

You don’t have to be Justin Timberlake for an outfit with a vest drama but you should be cautious as these three variations of illegal use of suit vests mentioned are challenging to pull off. It can either make or break an existing outfit. It normally suits a guy with lean body like the musicians mentioned earlier. The vest has its slimming effect however, do not abuse this feature, the vest cannot serve as a corset to your belly crisis.